Last week I railed about the mess of New Year’s resolutions that are motivated only by a longing for self-worth.
Assuming it sunk in, I want to back up the drama horse a bit and balance that chariot. See, the LACK of structure or goals can have the same effect. It goes something like this…
Well, since Jesus loves me, I’m not going to be proactive.
Well, since my wife loves me, I don’t have to vacuum the carpets anymore.
Well, since my boyfriend loves me, I don’t have to tell him I appreciate him.
Well, since Y3K is coming eventually, I don’t have to create a budget.
You get the point. It’s still good to plan, and even New Year’s resolutions can be fine, if they flow out of your identity as an image-bearer of God instead of sucking on your identity.
But instead of making New Years resolutions, I prefer to make personal mission statements.
Ever make one of those?
Remember those nice corporate buildings in the 90’s that always sported those engraved plaques in their foyers with a pithy statement expressing why you should care about them?
Those were mission statements.
A mission statement is a short description of an objective to which you are called.
Business do these a lot, and some are really good…
“Finding the very best ingredients raised with respect for the animals, the environment and the farmers.” – Chipotle
Simple, clear, and driven. They know what their goal is, and whether or not they’re reaching that goal.
Other mission statements, well, not so much…
Guided by relentless focus on our five imperatives, we will constantly strive to implement the critical initiatives required to achieve our vision. In doing this, we will deliver operational excellence in every corner of the Company and meet or exceed our commitments to the many constituencies we serve. All of our long-term strategies and short-term actions will be molded by a set of core values that are shared by each and every associate. – Albertsons Read the rest of this entry
Be ready to let go
(Not everyone has a problem with this. Some of you are itching to let go of what your doing in pursuit of something better. I wrote something for you here).
This post is for the Millennials who are content with life as it is.
Whether you are working a regular job, or hibernating in your mom’s house playing World of Warcraft, you are satisfied with the way things are, and are not particularly open to other opportunities. This isn’t a bad thing in itself.
But God may want to cause a disturbance in your system.
Below is a photo that I took from the top of the Mason Street campus at Brooks Institute of Photography, where I used to work. You can’t see it, but across the street and to the right of this window is the original Channel Islands Surf shop where Britt Merrick used to work. At different points in life, we both had dreams. I worked at Mason Street Studios aspiring to be a professional photographer, and Britt grew up across the street, awaiting the day he would take over Channel Islands.
Ironically, we now work with each other in the white warehouse pictured in center of this frame, doing what we thoroughly enjoy, yet never envisioned. God moved us from one side of the block to the other.
My new career path is not always something to romanticize over…I would probably have an easier life doing what I planned on. But ease in life is not a good motivation. Nor is it necessarily fulfilling. You don’t want to go through life settling for what’s “good” when “outstanding” is available.
We had to let go of something good, to get a hold of something better.
More importantly, we had to obey God. And from my own experience, there is no sorrow in that at all. There is never a regretful aftertaste in obeying Jesus.
The joy is always worthwhile.
There will be times when you know God is speaking to you about his plans for your life.
You just gotta let go.
Have you ever been in a place where you had to choose between two things? How did you handle it?
In the past three years of pastoring a college ministry (Adorn), I have been overwhelmed by God’s grace to send his Spirit and his presence upon us on a weekly basis. We started as a prayer meeting of three people that used to meet at the Mason Street campus at Brooks Institute of Photography to pray for college students. Now, it is a worship gathering of 400+ twentysomethings that meet on Friday nights in Carpinteria, coming as far North as Isla Vista, and as far south as Malibu, Thousand Oaks, and Newbury Park. Out of this group have come restored identities, passionate worshippers, overseas missionaries, builders of community, beautifiers of culture, and lovers of the King.
I’ve noticed five elements that are prevalent in these young adults who are cultivating a lifestyle of a Millennial on Mission…
- They are always having their identity renewed in Jesus (identity)
- Their new identity forms their worship of Jesus (worship)
- Their lives influences other lives (discipleship)
- They bring everything back into community (community)
- Their community reaches outsiders (evangelism)
Rather, these elements seem to happen all at once!
It’s not a system, but a story.
But wait, you say, “where is the ‘missional’ element in this series on Missional Millennials?”
For this reason, I sometimes refer to them as Missional Millennials.
Not all Christians know how to have a good time, but they should. We’ve cornered the market on “piety” and “reverence,” but in the process, lost our God-given sense of “joy” and “fun.”
Christians should repent of their inability to party.
Evangelism is the proclamation of good news! Why so dreary all the time?? Is it just me, or does the thought of “evangelism” sometimes provoke in us the imagery of a door-to-door salesmen, trying to sell a product he doesn’t want, to a stranger he doesn’t know? Perhaps if that’s the way you feel about the caricature of street-corner evangelism, you should try a different method of spreading our “good news.” May I suggest relational evangelism. It’s simple. You get to know people, you live life with them, you suffer with them, you party with them, and along the way, you teach them about Jesus. Of course, this takes quite a bit more investment than door-to-door sales, but it has a better return too. And Jesus rarely preached to people from a distance; he hung out with them, ate in their living rooms, and shared meals with them. Guess what…he often got to know them at parties. (gasp!)
We’ve already looked at the discipling effects of a Christ-centered community on a growing Christian. Now imagine what that would do for a non-believer?
In recent months, I’ve seen people who have been redeemed from many variations of oppression by the power of Jesus Christ. But I’ve also seen some of those same people fall away within less than a year, because they were not connected to the body of Christ in meaningful community.
Many of these people start their new life in Christ (identity) by leaving the old groups that are damaging them spiritually, emotionally, and even physically.
But you can’t just stop hanging out with the old crowd; you’ve got to replace it with a new one.
And a Christ-centered community must be more engaging to newer believers than their former one. Otherwise, when young men and women who are still maturing in their faith encounter a life situation they can’t handle, they will often fall back into their old social patterns, in order to fill the void of support and community that WE should have provided. I never use all caps, but this is begging for it…
EVANGELISM SHOULD NOT BE DONE IN ISOLATION OR IN A RUSH.
To evangelize someone is to introduce them to a new identity in Jesus and walk with them through the rhythms of worship in community for as long as it takes.
We get into trouble when we focus “discipleship” only on Christians, and only “evangelism” for the non-believer. The two become a sweet mixture, however. When you have an opportunity to bring an outsider into Christ-centered fellowship and celebration, you are beholding something beautiful: God’s expansion of God’s kingdom through God’s Church.
Britt Merrick once said, “God chooses to work alongside people, not independently of people.”
So what are you waiting for? Throw a celebration with your Christian community, and invite some visitors!
- Missional Millennials (part 2): Discipleship through worship (christopherlazo.com)
- Missional Millennials: Worship through Identity (Part 1) (christopherlazo.com)
Let’s say you committed a day out of your week with someone outside of your church community, doing something that you both enjoyed. Over time, you would eventually begin to establish a community.
All communities develop around a common purpose.
So if you begin shooting pool at the local billards once or twice a week with the same people, you will inevitably form a community around pool (I explain this process a bit more in depth here).
Common purposes give two strangers an excuse to hang out—thats why people throw parties.
Bonding may start on a personal level, but it doesn’t have to remain a one-on-one situation forever.
The Bible suggests that there is tremendous power in community (Acts 2:42-47). So why be satisfied with individual camaraderie when you can invite individuals into a community of kingdom-minded friends?
If you can wield a certain amount of influence through shared activity, think of what a community can do if you were risky enough to open it to non-believers.
A few weeks ago, some people got saved and baptized at our annual lake trip because this was being lived out by normal young men and women. Why? Because common purpose is the mission field that brings people together. And these college students decided to step on the field and expand the Kingdom of God.
A hobby may become an excuse to socialize for most people, but millennials on mission choose not to underestimate the power of a shared purpose, and often make sure these hobbies lead to the raison d’être of all communities: knowing God together.
So…got any hobbies?
In the first post of this series, I suggested that our identity forms what we worship. Now I’m proposing that what we worship will inevitably form discipleship in our lives and in others around us.
My mom used to say “You are what you eat,” as a euphemism for healthy nutrition. In other words, you become like what you digest. It’s not much different for making disciples and being discipled. You are who you hang around, and most communities gather around a common purpose. Something which both parties share a mutual interest in.
You will become like who you hang around.
You will hang around people you have something deeply in common with—your social circles will revolve around the things that you adore. In a nutshell, you will be discipled in accordance to what you most value. Further, you will also influence others in the same sphere of shared desires. Take bowling, for example. If your identity is shaped by your desire to become the best bowler in the world, the practice of bowling will feed your obsession; you will go bowling all the time. You will also surround yourself around a natural community that gravitates towards the same passion, and in so doing will unavoidably become like them, as they become like you. Mutual discipleship. You are what you eat, and you eat bowling.
This can get really interesting for the Christian. We immediately have an open door of evangelism with many people based on shared interests.
- What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
- Who else likes to do that?
- Share with them this common purpose, and build a community around it.
The reason this is usually problematic, is because many Christian’s don’t like hanging outside of their usual church culture.
We like to spend time with other Christians, and remove ourselves from the big bad world. In doing so, we disciple other Christians, and only influence them. Yet if you scan the New Testament, you will see that all people are disciples of something or someone, because we all have an inherent sense of identity, that leads us to seek out communities of worship centered around a common purpose. But dozens of people in your social stream are being naturally discipled by everyone else but you. If it’s true that God shares common grace on the wicked and the righteous alike, then shouldn’t we learn how to enjoy the finer things in life with the non-believer, if for no other reason, than for friendship?
It seems these days, the only time we will ever spend with a non-believer is for the split second it takes to convert them to Christianity. And even supposing that strategy works, they will convert to Christianity without any hope of godly discipleship. Oh but they will be discipled. The question is who?
The conversion lie.
Millennials are the ambitious generation of movers and shakers, distinguished as those born between 1980-2000. Several hundred of them congregate at a weekly gathering called Adorn, in Carpinteria, CA., seeking an overlapping encounter with Jesus, his community, and the world.
This is our story.
Our identity forms what we worship.
We’ve discovered that our beliefs about ourself have a profound influence on how and what we worship. The power of the gospel can widen our capacity to worship God with relative ease, since the gospel—with its outlandish teachings of an alien validation wrought in Jesus—manhandles what we end up thinking about ourselves.
The gospel transforms our identities, and with it, our worship.
We exchange our identities for Christ’s. This is why I spent the first year of Adorn focusing on one section of our vision: Jesus must be our highest joy. It occurred to me that there was no real output (mission) in our first year of gathering, and I often fought with the pressure to create programs, outreach, and missional opportunities for this rambunctious group of millennials. But the God and time would prove my stress unfounded. After a year, a culture had developed where people’s identities were being transformed into the image of Jesus, and the outflow that resulted from inward change would yield far more motivation and opportunity than any program I could contrive or manufacture. Without warning, we had a gathering of young people who were ready to change the world, yet firmly grounded in the unchanging identity of Jesus. It wasn’t “callings” that I was supposed to dish out, but rather, a clear, direct route to the person and work of the mighty Son of God.
Find your identity before you find your calling.
If we do not shape our identity around Jesus, we will quickly default, wrapping our individuality around what we can carry out because we are a generation that is driven to make a difference in the world.
Consider these two scenarios…
- You’re hired in the field of your choice, but only to a cut-throat corporation where those with the lowest performance record are routinely fired. The culture that will likely develop there is one of performance. Performance is determined by your own success or failure, and should you get hired, will be at the center of your identity.
- Or, you’re hired by a corporation that only picks the best in the field, yet puts tremendous value on their employees as well as their contributions. The culture that will likely develop here is based on trust, and will be at the center of your identity.
In the first scene, your passion determines your identity; in the following scene, your identity determines your passion. Since our identity forms our worship, we must be exceedingly careful not to develop our identity (who we are) around our calling (what we do). These things must stay separate! An identity formed in Christ will create the motivation to succeed, without the fear of failure. But an identity formed by calling will relegate worship from God’s performance to ours, and will set us up for heartache when we fail miserably to match his impossible standards in every way. This generation must understand that our primary goal in this season of life is not in figuring out what we are supposed to do, but who we are supposed to be.
Effective millennials who want to be on mission with God must first have their identities rooted in the person and work of Jesus Christ.
- Book review: The Millennials, by Thom S. Rainer and Jess W. Rainer. (christopherlazo.com)
As a college pastor, I am continually trying to understand the people I have been called to shepherd (myself included). This is the book I’ve been waiting for: a fresh study on my generation, from a humble perspective of those trying to reach them with the gospel. This book was authored by Thom Rainer and Jess Rainer, a Boomer and a Millennial, respectively. Their age differences offer wisdom, insight, and differing viewpoints needed for one generation to understand the other.
The Millennials is a collection of stats, interviews, and research on those born roughly between 1980 and 1990. The Rainers look intently at the most important issues that have formed the identity of the world’s largest generation, and the demographic of which the entire world wants a piece. Some of the issues involve significance, transparency, reconciliation, the workplace, and spirituality. But no other issue is more important to a Millennial than relationships. The Rainers explore this throughout their book, shedding light on ways that we can reach out to, understand, and be positively influenced by what will become one of the most powerful generations the world has ever seen.
I gave this book the highest rating possible. I’m not sure how other people decide their 5-star rating system, but mine is particular, and since I gave this book 5 stars, you should also know why I did. A five-star rating means it fulfilled all the below requirements for me when I read a book.
- Did it have something important to say? (Or do I feel like I read this book before?)
- Was it well written? (Not?)
- Was it cohesive? (Or did I get lost?)
- Was it consistent? (Or was there wasted space?)
- Is it relevant to MY niche? (Or just simply a good book?)
If you want to connect with this generation, you absolutely must read this book. It is only available in Kindle edition, but it is currently FREE. Order now before they mark up the price.
- “The Millennials” by Thom and Jess Rainer (pastorcoleman.wordpress.com)